Most Women are Unfit to Marry

Humans are the only species of primate that has significant parental investment from fathers. Chimp dads don’t give a shit. Gorilla dads don’t give a shit.

Chimp babies, when they are born, are immediately up in the trees, goofing off and doing chimp things. Same with Gorillas.

Humans, as they evolved into humans, found themselves with a significant problem to solve. We were already on a runaway train that selected for brain size and intelligence, and this came side-by-side with walking upright, which in women narrowed the birth canal, so the problem is that those big brains can no longer fit through the birth canal. This, by the way, is why childbirth is so painful for women, because they are squeezing a watermelon through an opening the size of a grapefruit at best. Nature’s solution to the problem was that babies had to be born much earlier in their development, when they were smaller. It also means that the baby you get is completely and absolutely helpless. It requires care and attention, without which it will die.

All of this happens in increments, and it is absolutely brutal. It is important to always keep that in mind, to avoid putting the cart before the horse. It means that loads and loads of proto-human females died in childbirth, and my God, what a way to die that must have been. Nature doesn’t give a shit. That evolutionary tree got pruned, and those women who gave birth earlier and earlier got favored, and that’s what gets carried forward.

Now the woman is stuck with a helpless infant, and she needs help. Without help, brutal nature takes care of the problem, ie, she and baby die. Loads and loads died this way, helpless and starving. The solution is that the father has to participate now. Fathers with a sense of obligation to their offspring, a sense that those people are his, that he has to protect them and provide for them, so that his offspring can grow up and reproduce itself, becomes favored. Fathers who lack this sense of obligation are evolutionary dead ends. Their genes don’t go forward, and that branch gets pruned.

How does all of this apply to the title of this piece, to my claim that most women are unfit to marry? In a modern American context in which most people are removed from brutal starvation, from brutal death, in effect cut off from the evolutionary forces that shaped us and made us into the only surviving and thriving homonid on Earth, the father’s protective instinct for his offspring is now redundant. The state now takes the place of what fathers used to do. A woman can’t starve because Uncle Sam will give her food stamps, subsidize her medical care, all of it. Fathers have been replaced by the machinery of the state.

Women know this. Most are not thoughful enough to know it explicitly, but they know it by osmosis, and that’s why divorce is so common. Add no-fault divorce, that it’s cool to just get divorced because you just want to fuck around or whatever, and you have absolutely no social stigma attached to divorce, and you add that the herd will automatically take the side of the woman, and that is the masculine protective instinct writ large, that women must always be protected, you end up with women as the universal in-group, and men as the universal out-group. What that looks like in practice is that women are taken care of, and men are on their own, no one to talk to, cut off from their own progeny. In war, men go off and die, while women don’t even have to register for the selective service.

Interestingly, what now gets favored by human-guided evolution is no longer giving a shit about your own kids, and that leads to greater and greater sociopathy, and we are in that transitional phase right now. We are quite literally de-evolving, becoming more like chimps and gorillas. Any time I can connect things like this to Flannery O’Connor, you know I will, and you better believe she treated this theme in her novel Wise Blood. She saw it coming.

I would tell any guy, any guy who would listen and didn’t understand, do not marry. You will regret it. You will find yourself a contributor to your own redundancy, completely at the beck and call of a female who cannot put down her cell phone, cannot stop continually comparing her social standing to that of her peers, cannot stop continually eyeballing potential mates who she believes are superior. Her evolutionary heritage is there, too, and she cannot help it, but without serious societal contraints on her, she will leave you, and you will end up divorced and cut off from your kids you are hard-wired to protect. The percentage of women who will self-actualize and who actually want a mate she can contend with is whitheringly small, probably less than 5% of the population. Most just stare at their phones and dream about buying Stanley cups. This is a game you cannot win. Do not play. It sucks, because you are evolved to want women, but let me tell you the cold hard truth: They are not evolved to want you.